For me the journey at “The Table” began on October 6, 1996. I remember it well. I was a student at Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary in Fort Worth, Texas when my professor Dr. Daryl Eldridge (now with Rockbridge Seminary – a fully online seminary) asked me to join he and several other guys for a table discussion.
That table discussion turned into a small group experience that lasted for 7 straight years, every Tuesday morning at 7 a.m. Over that 7 year period of time, I bet you we didn’t miss a 1/2 dozen Tuesday mornings.
We were together at this table when the guys dedicated my oldest son, Caleb to the Lord, eight days after he was born. We were also at this table praying together the morning the World Trade Center was attacked by terrorist. Even after the seven year stretch we have continued to stay connected as a group even though we live in 5 different states. We’ve even come back together on several occasions for a 3 day retreat. It is in part to that “Band of Brothers” that I pastor and coach today. The tools I pass on to you as your Chaplain and Coach I learned from those guys and the investment they have made in me these past 15 years of ministry.
The reason I ask whose table your feet are under is because if you aren’t sitting at the table, you will go hungry. Does that makes sense? Life can and will throw some pretty hard things at you, and if you don’t have someone walking with you, it can be pretty stink’n lonely. It’s like going hunting with out your hunt’n buddy. I hate hunting alone… That’s why I try to take at least one of my boys with me every time I hit the woods.
At one point in my life I was that lonely guy. Before Daryl asked me to join that group I really didn’t have anyone speaking into my life. I wasn’t being fed. And if I’m not fed, how can I be feeding others? It becomes a shared reality. If no one is speaking into your life it’s going to be hard to lead your family well, your company, your TV Show, produce good quality outdoor videos, products, etc… You might be able to fake it for a short time, but it will always come back to bite you.
I feel like I need to make a clarifying statement here. I’m not talking about a company you pay for a monthly coaching experience with CEO’s, who use charts, graphs, assessments, tools, strategies and plans. I’m talking about just a couple of guys/gals you can hang with and be real about life, family, work, and spiritual discussions. Someone you can sit at their table and they sit at yours as you share a meal together.
Now before someone sends me hate mail… I’m not saying that Life Planning, Coaching Roundtables, or fee for service CEO Monthly Strategy sessions are wrong. For goodness sakes, part of what I do with Chaplain to the Outdoorsmen is Life Coaching. What I am saying, is that you need some guys/gals around you to be authentic in your everyday life.
Check out this passage from the Bible and see if anything resonates with you.
42 They were continually devoting themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. 43 Everyone kept feeling a sense of awe; and many wonders and signs were taking place through the apostles.44 And all those who had believed were together and had all things in common;45 and they began selling their property and possessions and were sharing them with all, as anyone might have need.46 Day by day continuing with one mind in the temple, and breaking bread from house to house, they were taking their meals together with gladness and sincerity of heart,47 praising God and having favor with all the people. And the Lord was adding to their number day by day those who were being saved.
A good action step might be to list 3 – 5 things from this passage that the guys following Jesus did together.
Also, what do you see from this passage as 3 – 5 benefits of their doing life together.
How might your life be different or is it different by doing life with others?